5 Things that shouldn't control your life!

Life is just like a journey, it could be fun and interesting or bitter and boring; this all depends on your attitude and the choices that you make. You have a huge role in shaping your life! Yes, there is fate and destiny, and we know that what’s meant to be will be. But don’t forget that there is also “an aspiring you” who deep inside has a strong desire to be trying to search for the meaning of life in spite of the confusion and chaos that exists in it. Have you ever asked yourself this question? “How can I find inner peace and when will all the overthinking go away?” you must have been looking for answers for so long, and honestly, you will keep looking for answers as long as you are alive no matter how many answers you have finally found. Life is non-linear, things happen, things change and we, human beings change too. We improve and we grow…physically, mentally and psychologically. For every stage in life, the answers you are looking for will be different. Don’t doubt yourself or think you are contradicting yourself just because your perspective has changed, this is totally fine as long as you believe in your perspective and have your own reasons. No one can judge you for making the choices that you need for your own well-being. You are free to set your own standards and beliefs, but always keep in mind 5 ideas that shouldn’t be controlling your life.

1- Fear

Do you know how many people fall victim to fear? Quite a lot! Fear sometimes controls our lives and stops us from doing things that we are curious about just because we are afraid of the consequences. It is okay to think of the consequences of your actions and choices, but it is not okay to prevent yourself from taking the risk and giving yourself a chance to try just because you are afraid. Having fears is normal, but allowing those fears to control you is one of the things that hinder you from achieving your goals. Fear is capable of paralyzing you mentally and spiritually...it stops you from pursuing your dreams and kills your passion. Don’t be afraid of failure, the road to success is not meant to be easy! You can fall once, twice or ten times, but rise up again and keep trying! There is nothing you will lose if you keep trying. On the contrary, you will gain experience and life lessons that you would have never known about if you did not try. The human brain is very powerful and our thoughts are wild most of the time…all you need to do is to give space to yourself to face your fears and to take the risk. It’s not about winning or losing, it is about the experience and the journey to success after all the struggles. Think positively and stay away from negativity as much as you can, because your fears will be replaced with courage once you have a positive mindset.

2- Negativity

We live in a world that is overwhelmed by negative emotions and negative vibes in most places that we go to. There is a very high chance that those negative vibes could infect you too. It is so toxic to be surrounded by people who always bring you down by their words and actions. It is also unhealthy to sit with people who complain most of the time. Those negative vibes are capable of making you frustrated and not interested in doing things that you are usually fond of. Therefore, do not hesitate to cut off people who bring nothing but pain. Stay away from those who suck out your energy and leave you burdened by thoughts and worries. Sometimes it is better to be your own company than to be surrounded by people who spread negative vibes. Negativity makes us lazy, tired for no reason and unsatisfied. And there is nothing worse than non-satisfaction. Take a break from negative people and start meeting positive people more often. Positivity is the key to happiness and inner peace.

3- Money

Money solves many problems in our lives, doesn’t it? and the social media has brainwashed people with its stereotypical post about how money is everything we need and how crying in a BMW is better than crying on a bike. People blindly share those posts and they become completely absorbed by how convincing those posts are. So here’s what happens: people start becoming more angry with their financial status, they never feel they have enough, they always look at how other people are living financially, they judge and envy and turn against their lives. When money controls your life, do not expect to be completely happy. When your mind is only money-oriented, trust me, you are never going to find inner peace. You will always crave more and more…greed brings more greed. You must be thankful for what you have…you are lucky you have a job, a family, friends, food, clothes and you’re healthy. Count your blessings, be grateful, and the feeling of satisfaction and peace will be more than enough.

4- The Past

Nothing is more exhausting than a mind that keeps thinking about the past. You must be kind to yourself and stop blaming it for past mistakes. Regret is tough and sickening. Do not fall prey to the past. The past is no longer here, the past will never come back. Shakespeare says in one of his plays, “What is done, cannot be undone.” It is useless to torture yourself for what happened years ago. Look at yourself now, you have changed! The present and the future are here in front of you, you can avoid doing the mistakes of the past in them. You have a new chance to correct what was once wrong. Now all you need to try to do is to let go and love yourself.

5- People’s opinions about you

Do not be surprised when you hear rumors about you that are unfair and untrue. Not everyone is meant to love you and support you. There will be bullies, abusers and toxic people in your life who will try hard to destroy your confidence and self-esteem. Being aware of that, you must always feel proud of yourself and of how far you have come. Do not let people’s words about you shake you or break you. You know your worth; you know who you are and what you do. Let them talk behind your back, move on and keep your head high. As long as you believe in yourself, no words no matter how harsh could ever define you or change your idea about yourself. People will talk about you whether you are great or not. So you might as well, ignore those negative vibes and get yourself busy being successful and amazing as you are!